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Ichiro Suzuki, Pete Rose, Ty Cobb, and Paul Edelman


Ichiro Suzuki, Pete Rose, Ty Cobb, and Paul Edelman.  We all share something in common with each other.  Alright, we have to eliminate the obvious using the method used on standardized tests… which answer does not fit?  Paul Edelman.  The other three names are/were professional baseball players who hit for over 4000 career base hits.  Each time, the impossible became possible.  Ty Cobb hit for 4000 career hits, a record never thought to be broken.  Then Pete Rose achieved that mark, followed by Suzuki.

In 2012, there were eleven quarterbacks who threw for over 4000 yards breaking a record 10 quarterbacks in one season.  Future Hall Of Famers, Drew Brees, Tony Romo, Tom Brady, Peyton Manning and Aaron Rodgers just to name a few.

The late, great Wilt Chamberlain is the only pro basketball player to ever score 4000 points in one season.  The season being the years 1961-1962.

Sorry hockey fans… and I am disappointed as well there are no 4000 goals or points scored.  Goalie Devan Dubnyk of the Edmonton Oilers has stopped over 4000 shots as have Roberto Luongo, Henrik Lundqvist, and bizarre former Flyers goalie Ilya Bryzgalov.  I looked for any hockey player who might have racked up 4000 penalty minutes and the closest I could come was a player by the name of Tiger Williams (Toronto Mapleleafs) who retired just short of 4000 with 3966 minutes.

There has been no physical demand on my part to reach 4000 views on Paul’s Heart, just the will to put my thoughts down into written form.  I would like to think that there are more in my household who would be excited for me, especially my oldest daughter who is not really fond of reading.  You would think she would see that so many have read what her father has written and have that motivate her, but to my disappointment, nope.  Nonetheless, for the guy who’s college English professor once wrote while grading one of my papers that I “don’t have the intelligence to get past a comic strip page”, I think I can, and have done so.

I now set my sights on a new goal, 5000 views.  Thank you so much for encouraging me with your comments and support.  Darlene, thank you for suggesting this be my outlet for my thoughts in pursuit of that book I want to write.  And to everyone, I have over 100 more stories already started, not including the ideas that pop in my head daily.

As usual, I constantly run into new experiences that I want to share with you, in hopes that somehow, you will see, you are not alone.

Thank you everyone for reading Paul’s Heart.

 

Sometimes It’s Not Good To Look Ahead


One of the most important pieces of advice I can give any cancer patient, as an experienced patient and survivor is, “do not look at your calendar and an end date for your treatments.”

It is only natural once you are diagnosed with a cancer, and told how long you will be undergoing treatments, to look at the calendar and see just when it will all end.  An end goal is always a good thing, however, going through cancer treatments is such a struggle.  That is why we all dread going through it.  The stereotype alone is enough to cause us anxiety.

But imagine the following scenarios:

1)   you are a patient scheduled to undergo 12 cycles of a treatment plan.  This could mean 24 weeks or 12 months.  Watching the calendar could make it feel impossible that you will be able to reach that end.

2)  prior to starting your next treatment, your blood counts are off, and you are told you will not be able to undergo your next treatment, thus pushing your end date further than you had planned.  Or perhaps you get the flu or some other infection.  Delays of treatments are devastating.

My dad recently found out about this philosophy of mine, first hand.  As we arrived to meet the oncologist prior to his treatment, the oncologist notices a swelling and discoloration in the hand that had received the chemo injection.  It had become infected and needed to be treated before the next treatment could begin.  It is possible that had my dad noticed it sooner, it could have been treated when it actually started to develop, but obviously had not.  He got the news no cancer patient going through treatment wants to hear, “we will have to reschedule you for next week”.

So how do you prevent this thinking from happening?  It is simple.  Keep the task at hand as simple as you can, worry only about the treatment you are currently undergoing.  Take each treatment one day at a time.  It is really that easy.

I should know.  My last treatment was delayed because I got the flu.

September Is Hodgkin’s Lymphoma Month


Political correctness… I hate it.  I mean, I understand why people wish to state things using certain words, avoiding others.  And perhaps there should be no better reason to express something in a less threatening and scary manner, than using terminology less doom and gloom.

I was diagnosed with a disease, cancer.  That is what it was called in the 1950’s, 1960’s, 1970’s, definitely in the 1980’s, and I believe still into the 1990’s.  I believe somewhere around there is when cancer “stopped being recognized” as a disease.

When I met my first oncologist, these were the first words out of his mouth, “Hodgkin’s Disease is one of the most curable forms of cancer.”  And there it was, I had cancer.  I had a disease.  But as I often do, I have a proof reader look over many of my pieces that contain information and facts about cancer.  When people read stories like mine, they are looking for information and experience and I want to make it accurate.

This year, something odd had happened.  In one of the speeches I wrote for Relay For Life, my proof reader had edited my speech, changing every mention of “disease” when it was preceded by “Hodgkin’s”, from “disease” to “lymphoma”.  There is no argument that Hodgkin’s is a form of lymphoma, a cancer of the lymph system.  But it is also known as a blood cancer.  And while I am puzzled by the decision to change “MY” wording of “disease” to lymphoma, believe it or not, there are actually discussion about whether a “blood cancer” (not just lymphomas but also leukemias) should be classified by something other than “cancer.”  That is a whole other post.  Cancer is cancer.  Whether it is a tumor or cells in the blood, the treatments are horrible and the prognosis are both good and bad.  Do we really need to argue over what is cancer?

Look at what is happening in society when we have a non-medical publication like Consumer Report, write an article stating that perhaps we should not screen as early or as often for certain cancers.  One thing that has always stood out in my mind, and have never forgotten, was being told “timing is everything, the earlier cancer can be caught the better.”  Science and medicine has proven this.  But a writer in a magazine states that might not just be so.  While it is true, screening might catch the cancer early, is it worth all the worry and hype and stress that it causes a person who is fortunate enough to not get the diagnosis of cancer?  Bottom line, anyone arguing over the value of cancer screening should just be glad that we have those discoveries and options available to us.  Unfortunately, the bigger picture which never gets mentioned is the costs that would be saved by not screening as many patients.  Sure, it would be hit or miss, determining who would need the screening, and of course some would not get caught.  But if missing one person’s early diagnosis meant saving millions of dollars, then that decision is worth it.  WRONG!

I was lucky.  I did not have the opportunity for early screening. but my Hodgkin’s Disease was caught early enough, even at stage 3B.  I was 22 years old.  The first patient I counseled with Hodgkin’s Disease was a 14 year old girl.  You can find my story about her called “Jennifer’s Story” under Pages.  14 years old.  Eight years younger than me, but she was staged at 4.  But Jennifer died.  Her cancer was not caught early enough.  My father now in the second week of his first cycle for treatment of lung cancer had his cancer discovered early not because of screening, but because his primary care used his best judgment and ordered a very expensive CT scan for a chronic cough.  His staging started out at 1 but through testing and biopsies was moved up to 3.  But his doctors believe his prognosis will be excellent.  Had he not had that cough, there was no planned lung screening for him, in spite of being a smoker for over 50 years and working in a quarry inhaling all kinds of dust.

Cancer is scary.  For too many, cancer is equated with dying.  Nobody knows that more than someone who has gone through the experience.  So I ask for understanding that I do not want to lessen my history by taking a word that sounds awful, disease, and substituting it for something less frightening.  There are bigger concerns in the world of cancer, those other than the medical professionals we trust to cure us are pushing to reverse the progress in the battle against cancer, and the only reason that can have any justification, is money.

September is Hodgkin’s Lymphoma Month.  I know that I will see lots of websites making mention of this, and many will have photos of purple or lime green ribbons as symbols for this disease.  The colored ribbons and rubber bracelets are a great idea to bring awareness to the cancer I had faced.  But there is no better awareness than seeing someone who actually faced cancer, and survived it.  Look at the survivors all over the world.  There are millions of us.  I have met hundreds of Hodgkin’s patients and survivors, and over a thousand other cancer patients and survivors.

For the sake of others who are just being diagnosed, or are in the middle of their treatments, or approaching the end of their cancer journey, it is because of awareness such as this month is dedicated to the cancer I faced, that there are newer and more effective treatments with better promises for success.  And since we do not have a 100% cure for this particular cancer, more efforts still need to be made to find that one option that will allow everyone to hear the words, “you are in remission.”

I had Hodgkin’s Disease.  I am cured of it for over 23 years.  And…

“for those in remission, I will keep looking in my rear view mirror to make sure you are still following me.  And if you are not on that road yet, I will drive slow enough for you to catch up to me.  But hurry up would you?”

 

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