Paul's Heart

Life As A Dad, And A Survivor

Why Paul’s Heart?


Why “Paul’s Heart” and why now?

I began “Paul’s Heart” as a step to writing a book, about what, I do not know.  As you can see, I am trying to keep all my options on this blog.  Perhaps, just as important, what I am trying to write about, is why?  I believe that some how, if I can reach even just one person who has gone through similar an experience like I have, or perhaps even inspired by someone who has had to deal with for so much.

But what if that person has no way to express how he or she feels.  I am hoping that this blog does just that, give everyone a voice.  By recognizing me and my limitations, they know that they will take care of us all.  I am laying it all out there.  It is a huge risk on my part because of employment, insurance, and just plain mean people.

However I am hoping that if that time should ever come that my health issues result in a bad judgment against me, as long as my blog has helped one person, then “Paul’s Heart” has been worth it to me.  If you are that one person, I am willing to be your voice.  I am willing to stand by you and help you find the care that you need.  I am willing to offer genuine encouragement and tell you it is okay when you do not want it.

Money Well Spent?


Yesterday was a full day for me, in other words, a typical Saturday.  The only difference, I actually had the day off which meant I finally get to spend some time with my daughters.  Because of my involvement with the school board election, I have become more involved in the activities in the school district from attending not only district meetings, but school functions like musicals, athletic events, fundraisers, and like yesterday, a competition called the Odyssey Of The Mind.

I am still much too unfamiliar to give it the proper description that it deserves, but from the small bit that I was able to catch, the competition is clearly and example of the good things that can come from a public education.  Teams of students from elementary to middle schools compete in teams with creative problems, find solutions, and then act them out.  Some problems are planned out, some are impromptu.  Some have props, other problems the children are given the tools or props to work or solve their problems.

Last year, two of our district teams went on from the competition, to compete at the state level, and one of those teams went on to the World competition.

This was the first time that I had attended the event, and was completely overwhelmed by the thousands in attendance.  There were so many schools, so many children.  I got to speak with some of our schools’ children, parents and coaches.  And that is when I heard the sad part.  This particular event, the Odyssey Of The Mind is not supported or sponsored by our school district.  Of all of the things that our district and school board approve to fund, this educational learning challenge is not funded at all by the district.  The money for these competitions come completely from the parents who participate or if lucky, a principal who believes in this experience for the children.  These expenses can hit the thousands of dollars when all is said and done.  Please note, I am not speaking about the other schools that are represented.

I do not know the results of the competition just yet, and I am waiting for the phone call.  But I did want to recognize the efforts of the children and the parents for the hard work for the last six months in preparation for this competition.  And one of the things that I would like to do if elected, is to make sure that our schools are supported in these scholastic efforts.

Listed below, are the platforms that my fellow candidates and I wrote to be our main talking points during the election.  Of course, there are so many other issues to cover, but will not possibly fit on a postcard when mailed out, and to be honest, I cannot think of many people that want to hear any of us drone on for hours about all of the problems that we have become aware of since our first runs for this office.

 

  • Progress for ALL students

Equip all students with better resources for success.  The measure of our students is stated in AYP – Adequate Yearly Progress.  The district has been fond of making the claim that our schools make AYP every year.  But what the district does not tell you, is that when the scores are broken down, too many of our individual subgroups do not even come close to making AYP.  Minorities, economically disadvantaged, and special ed students are multiple victims of this misrepresentation of facts in reading and math results.

  • Straight talk, open doors

Promote community involvement through active dialogue.  Average attendance of a school board meeting 3-5 people, out of over 12,000 families, not including taxpayers.  If you want to find something out from our district, you will not get an answer without going through the tedious, burdensome, and if necessary to pursue a denied appeal, costly process.

  • Maximize our district’s potential

Invest in success with new resources.  No-bid processes hamper this effort, such as with our district’s architect who just this, was called out by a new board member, when the board recommended the architect’s approval without having gone to bid.

  • Advocate for world class public education

Provide a stronger voice in Harrisburg.  We rely on our local representatives to fight for the sixth largest school district.  Yet one example is the charter school process in our district.  Our district is in no need of a charter school, has plenty of private and Catholic schools, and given the current funding formula of the charter schools, would devastate our district and taxpayers.  Our school board did the right thing, but three of our four local legislators support our governor’s charter school agenda at all costs, one legislator even being a founder of one charter school.  The appeal is expected to be a joke and overturned, throwing the burden back on our district.  Our district needs to make a presence in Harrisburg.

  • Support those who make our district work

Recognition and fair treatment of all personnel.  Verbal attacks and criticisms of teachers, by the administration and board must stop.  The demoralization of the secretaries and support staff such as maintenance, cafeteria workers, and bus drivers must stop.  For those who vocalize against unions, the last section of workers do not belong to a union, and their reward is one of constant “take away”.  The district is doing what it can to reduce hours of a bus driver to eliminate the health benefits.  The cafeteria staff is continuing to dwindle in numbers creating a very unsafe situation.  There are more examples.  This cannot continue to happen which ultimately will have an impact on the children.

  •  Embrace the diversity of the NPSD

Identify and build its cultural wealth encouraging respect for all.  If I recall, our district has the challenge of dealing with over 75 languages (without checking my notes, I believe that number is much higher).  And all of our cultures have so much to offer the district, yet that resource clearly remains untapped.

 

So after visiting the Odyssey Of The Mind Competition, the above statements were what I was working on next, actually the entire campaign effort.  I have three other awesome candidates with each of us offering something unique.  And even stronger, we have a great campaign staff who is doing the leg work and muscle to make sure that we have the support and opportunity to spread the word, that we hear the concerns of the people of the district, and we want to help.  But we need the help come May 21st, Primary Election Day in Pennsylvania.

Persistence Pays Off


I travel to Manhattan to get my late term cancer survivor care.  I travel an hour away just to see my family care physician.  There is a reason.  And between Monday and Wednesday confirmed why I travel so far.  Somewhere in my lifetime, medical care changed.  Whether it was due to mandates, pen pushing insurance companies who know everything there is to know about a patient without seeing the patient. or ambulance chasing lawyers who eat their lunches in their cars while parked in a doctor’s office parking lot, much of medical care has changed.  I say much, because I do not believe this of my general practitioner.  She is only my third family physicain.  My first was still practicing medicine until his mid-80’s (thanfully I did not get more than a cold, his hands shook like crazy).  My second retired, and my third has been there ever since.  Notice the politeness as I do not put a number of years.

Her practice grew and was joined by her husband, and a third doctor.  With the partners came bigger locations, and even a very appropriate name for their “health clinic.”  I have known both husband and wife for a long time, but in general, I see the Mrs. Dr.  Both are very familiar with my unusual health background, and are both very educated in current medical trends.  The best thing of all though with their relatively small size practice (as far as partners are concerned), is that with each visit, I do not have to repeat my entire health history so that I am certain the doctor does not do something to me that should not be done.  Another great thing is that she (and he as well) know me well enough emotionally, to know what my mental presence is like and if there could be something underlying.  Also, they are no bullshit.  They will question another doctor’s prescription if it is about side effects, or simply a drug name (one for another).  And the icing on the cake, they welcome the opportunity to get input from other doctors in my care.

So on a general level, I am taken care of.  Under normal circumstances, specialty care is a lot different.  The orthopedist.  The endocrinologist.  These doctors and others can take months to get in for an appointment.  If you are in an urgent situation, you are told to go to the emergency room, and at that conclusion, to go see that same specialist who sent you to the ER, three to four months from now.  The health hamster wheel goes round and round.  Even a specialist dealing with pulmonology and cardiology can take longer than necessary for the patient’s needs.  It was my heart episode that I learned a very valuable trick.  Have the doctor’s office make the call to the specialist for an appointment.  The doctor carries a lot more credibility and the issues do not get hidden by emotion and fear that a receptionist loses interest in the severity of your call.  Speaking of which, my doctor has some of the best office staff working with her as well.  When I call, and I explain a situation as urgent, they know the difference with me, urgent, and “I can wait.”

Following my heart surgery, I had already had a cardiologist, and was also dealing with the most knowledgable long term cancer doctors in the world.  But the problem was, my cardiologist would not recognize the cause behind the need for the open heart surgery, the exposure to the severe amount of radiation as treatment for my Hodgkin’s Disease.  Result, fired him.  The next year for a follow up, same thing with another cardiologist, and same result, fired him.  I tried once more, and even got to see the chief of cardiology at what is a very large and successful hospital network in Philadelphia, especially knowledgable about cancer, and fired him.  All because of what I knew to be true, each cardiologist seemed to disregard.

In the following years, I have had several trips to the emergency room, one by ambulance of at least two hospitals.  Fortunately, at least they realized my being asplenic as a concern, as anyone would be, but again, did not want to hear about my late effect issues.  Until Monday.  On that day, the very first doctor saw the med-alert bracelet, called the telephone number on it, got the actual doctor that I see, and within minutes had my entire late effect history at his fingertips.  Which I believe made the difference in the tests that would be ordered to diagnose me, and eventually treat me.

And it was with that, this ER doctor also referred me to my new cardiologist.  And it is official, I will see him again.  It was less than five minutes before he was telling me the harsh things that had been done to me, and though he felt my episode on Monday was more likely a pulmonary issue, he wanted to rule out other known issues to see if they had gotten worse.  Unfortunately, worse does not necessarily lead to treat because of the risks involved.  Most of the other cardiac issues are all “wait until have to” situations.  But the bottom line, his orders and tests would provide answers and eliminate possibilities.

Dr. G said to me, “allow me to give you some peace of mind.”  I stopped him right there and told him he had already done that by not dismissing my history, my knowledge of my history, and the involvement of the rest of my treatment team.

So his other recommendation was to reach out to a pulmonologist locally and get my lungs followed up on.  Having two episodes of pneumonia, both very serious, he felt that perhaps my known pulmonary issues might be getting worse.  Again, this would just lead to the “waiting” approach as well.

When I got home, I got on the telephone and called the office of a pulmonologist that he had recommended.  Again, I was immediately convinced just from talking to the nurse, when she heard the abbreviated version of my health history, scheduled my appointment, but assured me that after she spoke with the doctor, not to be surprised if my appointment got moved up.

It has taken too long to finally get to this point.  And there are so many of us out in the world, over 12,000,000 survivors and so many have no idea why they feel like crap years later.  And then they settle for their doctor just stopping at “it doesn’t make sense” when a symptom is sworn to be real, but the typical and common testing and guidelines do not give the answer.

I am alive today, because my family physician made a decision to order a test on a 42 year old man, that would typically not be ordered.  And her office got the appointment made.  Otherwise I would have probably waited a couple more months because I would not have been able to convince the cardiology office of the urgency.   And she did.  For that I will be forever grateful.

My family doctor’s care has set a very high standard of expectation.  I settle for nothing less.  It is clear, persistence has paid off.

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