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Crossing A Line


“I always feel like somebody’s watching me
And I have no privacy
Woh, I always feel like somebody’s watching me
Who’s playing tricks on me?
Tell me who’s watching
Oh, what a mess I wonder who’s watching me now.”

– Rockwell 1984

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It hurts when a relationship ends.  And it can be on any level from a boyfriend/girlfriend status, or marriage.  Many find themselves able to move on, many cannot.  Some no longer have any ties to their ex, others face familial or business arrangements forcing hostile cooperation.

But what happens when one person just does not want to let go, that one person either wants to keep a flame burning, or completely destroy the one who broke their heart?  Any time a relationship ends, there will always be questions about why, what could have been, or what next.  Depending on the level of commitment, will determine the level of support needed to get through this period.

A relationship that ends will hopefully lead to something more positive.  But for others, a darker path gets crossed.

Simple communications such as emails and texts with other motives than those expressed, can cross a fine line.  There is a huge difference between the legality of free speech, if you feel threatened or harassed by the communications.  Sending unwanted emails, texts, or other mail, collecting information, spying, or “trolling” the internet, spreading rumors or misrepresenting facts and assumptions are all illegal acts because they are meant to intimidate and harass.

But if you do not give the perpetrator the response that they are looking for, that is when the legal authorities need to be involved before emotions and actions escalate any further, possibly violent.  There is no room to assume things will not get worse if you see this behavior and it is for the benefit, yes, benefit, for both individuals at that point to have the legal authorities involved.

2 More Milestones… One Big One To Come


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I was thrilled when I saw the view counter turn over 15,000 for “Paul’s Heart.”  But as I sat down this evening to write my current post, I was greeted by WordPress that today was the 2nd Anniversary of “Paul’s Heart.”  I keep a lot of “anniversary” dates, but admittedly, this one slipped my mind.  I have always enjoyed writing, going waaaaaay back to junior high school when I started writing poetry and song lyrics.  But from a professional level, things took off for my about four years ago when I got the opportunity to write through a volunteer writing program at Sloan Kettering Memorial Cancer Center called “Visible Ink.”

“Visible Ink” matches up patients and survivors with a professional coach.  Writers can just write to put their feelings and experiences on paper (I call it therapy), or writers may have something more structured in mind.  I have had several things published through MSKCC and beyond.  And to reach a bigger audience, I started “Paul’s Heart.”  Originally intended to share my experiences as a long term cancer survivor, I have used “Paul’s Heart” to share other experiences as well.  I have written topics about education, bullying, animals, fatherhood, and over the last year, about divorce.

But the milestones do not stop.  Though to official counters, this will be my 400th post, though officially I am not going to count this as my 400th, because I just simply stating the obvious.  There is no effort just to state facts.  They are what they are.

And the official counter on my homepage has now announced that I am less than 2 months away from my 25th anniversary, free from Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.

Thank you everyone for keeping “Paul’s Heart” going, for all your warm comments and suggestions.

Paul

2015 Off To A Great Start!!!


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Happy New Year to all my readers and followers of “Paul’s Heart”!!!  The year is just barely 12 hours started, and amazing news is that “Paul’s Heart” has now had over 15,000 views in just its second year.  This is up from just 5000 that I had last year at this time.  So I want to take this time to thank each and every one of you right now for your support, your readership, and your sharing.

As I wrote in my last post, I personally want 2015 to be more positive.  That does not mean there will not be less than positive things that get written about on my blog, but I am going to try to make the blog more inspirational.  I want the blog to do what it has been intended to do, and that is help people.

Starting this year, I will continue to discuss my issues with being a long term cancer survivor as well as my life as a single father and the divorce process itself.  But I also want to expand my efforts to other topics as well.

One of the biggest successes I experienced on “Paul’s Heart”, and I believe benefited so many readers, was hearing the stories of others who have gone through issues of survivorship in one form or another, and I would like to continue to offer others an opportunity to tell their story here, on “Paul’s Heart”, in their own words.  So, if you have an inspirational story that you would like to share on “Paul’s Heart,” please send it to me at pedelmanjr@yahoo.com .  I would be honored to have your story shared on this blog.

Of course, if there is a particular question or topic that you would like to see written about on this blog, please email me your questions or suggestions at pedelmanjr@yahoo.com .

Once again, thank you all for your support and encouragement.  And Happy New Year!!

Paul

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