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A Twist On The Parent/Teacher Conference


My ex-wife and I during our marriage did have one thing that we mutually supported and participated in, and that was our daughters’ education.  The only thing more important to us than letting children be children, is to get a good education.

I grew up very close with a friend whose family was my role model for a successful education.  Each night, the parents sat down with each of their kids, working with each child on their homework or studying for a test.  While I may not have been the best “student” and study habits to match, I did what I could, and of course, got by.  But my ex and I wanted our daughters to do better than just get by.

For seven hours a day, we trust professional, non-family members with the safety and education of our children.  For a majority of the school year, teachers spend more time with children than parents.  And while parents are usually and often the role models, it is the teachers that mold the young minds.  It is our job as parents to make sure that we support those efforts.

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One way that we show that support is by attending parent/teacher conferences.  We have never missed one conference for either daughter.  This year would be different however, with me no longer living near the school district.  The teachers and the school were happy to allow a telephone conference so that I might have the chance to hear the progress, and if any, struggles of either of my daughters.  This would be the first time I would not get to meet their teachers face to face, but the experience would still prove to be the same.

My daughters have had to experience a lot in their young lives.  Being adopted so far has not been an emotional issue for them, but has the potential.  Both have witnessed me in dire medical situations that twice left me near death, and two others just as serious.  We lost our beloved dog Pollo a year ago, the death of their grandfather from smoking and lung cancer, and of course, the divorce of their parents and the process over the last year.

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But just as every other conference has gone, it made me so proud of my daughters to hear how well they have been doing in school this year so far.  Each teacher described my daughters just as I hoped and really, knew I would hear.  I have two pleasant, polite, hard working, and helpful little girls.  One teacher commented on how my youngest daughter discussed in major detail, the summer that was spent with me.  Both teachers basically assured me that both girls were doing quite well dealing with the current issue of my divorce.  I have made it my only goal during this whole process, to protect my children from the negativity of divorce, and the evil interference of outsiders to our family.  And according to two strangers to me, but guardians of my children during the school year, my children are continuing to progress, and adjusted, just as I had hoped.

I love my daughters and there is not a thing anyone can say otherwise.  I have never been more proud of them as I am today.

Elections Need To Be More Than Just About Politics


Vote Tuesday

For the first time in three years, I am not playing an active role in politics, local or greater.  It feels good on one hand, because my schedule has been a lot lighter.  I learned first hand what it takes for a candidate to make the commitment of running for a public office.  I also found out the price a person pays for exposing themselves to public scrutiny.  There is no such things as privacy, once you set out to do the “right thing”.  And often times, because of the success in the direction of a campaign, the methods used by opposing sides to deal with the more positive campaign, are nothing less than questionable.  And because of the timing of such negative attacks, typically days before the election, there is little time for the “good guy” to respond.

Last year, I shocked my campaign when I informed them that I had filed for divorce.  I had to tell them, because  my ex-wife’s family expressed adamantly that they would do everything they could to cost me my campaign run as revenge.  Their threats included anonymous letters, and protests at election polls.  The most surprising came when a family member actually called my main opponent to spread three brutal, but defendable lies, only if I had the time to do it, which days before the election I did not.  I could prove everything a lie, but I did not have the time or the money.  I could only hope that with it just days before the election, people had paid enough attention to the good that I wanted to do.  After the election, I would deal with the slander that was tossed around.

Long story short, they followed through on their threats.  I did lose the election, but I will not give them the credit for costing me the election.  Voter turnout was abysmal.  With a huge voting base, and plenty of angry voters, a change for the better could have taken place.

People take elections for granted.  Now I am not going to get into Republican versus Democrat because personally that irritates me.  Elections are about making an informed decision, not being told what to think.  The strategy of voting “straight R” or “straight D violates my belief in making an informed decision.  If I believe a candidate in either party is going to support what I believe, I will vote for them.  As long as a candidate is going to run the business of government, local, state, or federal, without infringing on the personal beliefs of others, I will vote for them.

Everyone should vote.  As they say, if you don’t vote, you cannot complain.  And a vote will not make any bigger difference, than in a local election.  Literally, every vote counts and might just make a difference.

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There are two elections of special interest to me.  The first is back in my home state of Pennsylvania.  A dear friend is running for election to House Of Representatives.  Suzan Leonard is a stand-up candidate.  She does not duck questions or topics, and is quite up front what her concerns and plans are for as a State Representative.  As a school board candidate and member, Suzan carried herself with nothing but professionalism.  She has stayed true to what she stood for as a member of the school board.  And for that reason, I hope my friend Suzan wins the State Rep office that she has truly earned through her campaign.

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The other election concerns Amendment #2 in the state of Florida.  I have written enough to show my support of why this amendment is necessary to be approved.  Those who oppose Amendment #2 are doing it for the most selfish of reasons, which has absolutely nothing to do with the amendment itself, but strategy has planted the seeds (no pun intended), that legalizing medicinal marijuana is legalizing recreational marijuana.  Which it does not, and will not.  What the legalization of medicinal marijuana will do, is provide relief to millions of patients who cannot find relieve through other expensive and addictive prescription medications, many of which are more lethal and addictive than marijuana.

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So, get out tomorrow, Rock the Vote.  It is your duty, no matter what election is happening in your area, school board, judge, state rep, whatever, your vote does make a difference.  It is up to you.

In The Arms Of The Angel


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Sarah McLachlan – In The Arms Of The Angel (including video link)

Spend all your time waiting for that second chance for a break that would make it okay.
There’s always some reason to feel not good enough and it’s hard at the end of the day.
I need some distraction.
Oh beautiful release memories seep from my veins.
Let me be empty and weightless and maybe I’ll find some peace tonight.

In the arms of the angel fly away from here from this dark cold hotel room and the endlessness that you fear.
You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie.
You’re in the arms of the angel may you find some comfort here.

So tired of the straight line and everywhere you turn.
There’s vultures and thieves at your back and the storm keeps on twisting.
You keep on building the lies that you make up for all that you lack.
It don’t make no difference escaping one last time.
It’s easier to believe in this sweet madness oh this glorious sadness that brings me to my knees.

In the arms of the angel fly away from here from this dark cold hotel room and the endlessness that you fear.
You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie.
You’re in the arms of the angel.
May you find some comfort here.
You’re in the arms of the angel.
May you find some comfort here.

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