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Another Year Of “Paul’s Heart” On The Way


I just received notification that my domain name has come up for its annual renewal.  Though technically, “Paul’s Heart” shows as only having started January 6th, 2013, it actually began the year before, as a technical glitch, forced me to begin all over, transferring all of my stories over.  Fortunately at that point, it was only a few dozen.

Although my first post, was just a “Welcome To Paul’s Heart” message, and what my blog was going to be about, life as a cancer survivor and as a dad to two wonderful daughters, the first official post was called, “What Happens When You Outlive Statistics.”  That was written eight years ago.  My health had already turned from my late side effects from Hodgkin’s Lymphoma back twelve years earlier.  And now, I am a survivor of cancer of more than thirty years.

The thing that keeps me going, is I have goals.  Goals with my daughters, and things I still want to complete.  The Covid19 pandemic has given me the best start of writing my first book, written solely by me.  In fact, not even completed, I have ideas for three more after that one.

Then there are the things I have written here.  I have published 922 posts so far, and I have 254 prompts started.  So I am not running out of material any time soon.

But what has meant the most to me, are the comments that I have received over the years, either encouragement or appreciation because of knowledge gained from my experiences.  Honestly, I have a lot longer to go.

Remembering A “Rival” Survivor


Last week, I found out that a fellow long term survivor of Hodgkin’s Lymphoma had passed away suddenly.  I am going to apologize in advance for what may seem like a scattered and unorganized post.  Normally, as I do these posts, remembering fellow survivors, I am a bit more put together with my thoughts.

Those of us who knew Michele, were all caught off guard by the news, and likely discovered by mistake.  In our circle of survivors, it is not uncommon for us to disappear into the background, and just watch what is going on.  Combined with the all-consuming issue of Covid19, we found out Michele passed away long ago, just as states were beginning to set restrictions.  Her last post was actually two days before she passed away, showing no awareness that her end was near.

Typical of one of us, a long term survivor of Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, she struggled with many late side effects from the treatments that cured her of her cancer.  Some days were more difficult than others.  She found most of her strongest support among our group, because with all of us dealing with similar issues, we not only understood what she was going through, we knew what she was going through.

Just before Covid19 took over, she and I had a discussion about two issues that we shared (I will not state them out respect for her privacy).  But as I had experienced these events, and their causes, she found direction to assist her doctor in directions to pursue not only answers, but hopefully management.  Multiple trips to the hospital for the same thing, left her frustrated, as it does all of us.

Michele was not really complicated.  She had two young children as do I.  They were her world.  And now their mother is gone, a feeling I do not wish on anyone, including my own.  Unfortunately the reality for so many of my fellow survivors.  But any strength or stamina she had, it went to her children.

Over the years, we did have other little “non” Hodgkin’s related banter, especially when she found out I was a Seattle Seahawk fan.  Being from New England, she was all to happy to remind me of the awful finish to the Super Bowl where her Patriots ended up victorious due to a huge coaching error.

There were a lot of fun things written about Michele in her memoriam that showed, in spite of all of the health struggles she had, she still made the most of her life with her children.

But as for us survivors, the suddenness of her passing, in spite of her struggles, and not really knowing what ultimately caused her passing, has shaken us.  We know our health is fragile, and we do not take our days lightly.  Even when we are not having our best day, we do not want it to be our last.

Our group of survivors continues to grow, and I can only wish that they would have had the chance to meet Michele.  Like I said, she was inspirational to so many.

My Multipurpose Mask


To look at the picture, and realize that I live in the sunny state of Florida, you could ask yourself what in the world am I doing wearing a ski sleeve?  A perfectly legitimate question as southwestern Florida typically does not see “cold” (by Florida definition, anything below 70 degrees until January and then we wear socks with our flip flops).

In 2020, as I take my daily walks, I normally would be wearing a standard cloth face mask as many people are wearing to protect themselves from Covid19.  But this morning, I woke up to a chilly 48 degrees (it was cold enough without hearing the wind chill was in the 30’s).  My cloth mask was not going to cut it for me this morning.

My green ski sleeve came in handy decades ago on the many mountains I got to ski when I was able to.  Living in the northeast of the US most of my life, it also helped a lot when it came to the frigid temperatures of winter.

But as the close of the first decade of the new century approached, a condition that had been developing over the years, courtesy of side effects from cancer treatments for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.  It is kind of difficult to describe, as it is more of an onset, more than an “attack.”  The condition feels similar to an asthma attack, yet does not respond to asthma medication.  The duration lasted depending on the weather conditions and it did not matter hot or cold.  Recovery was even determined by the climate, indoor and outdoor.

Caused by damage resulting from radiation therapy and the drug Bleomycin in my chemo cocktail, I have several diagnosed issues with my lungs.  I have something called radiation fibrosis, restrictive lung disease (currently at 76% capacity – my lower left lung lobe is no longer functional or “dead”), and I have several unidentified spots on both lungs, being watched for potential development into lung cancer.

High humidity, cool windy air, and cold temperatures all produce the same effect with my lungs, almost a “hardening” or loss of flexibility, making it difficult to breath, often resulting in me taking rapid short breaths as I struggle for air.  The only thing that helps me resolve this, is getting into a climate controlled environment, either air conditioned (if dealing with heat and humidity), or at least a comfortable low 70’s internal temperature.  Once inside, I must sit, and slow my breathing down, allowing the comfortable internal air to get into my lungs.

How long these episodes would last would depend.  From my house to the car, it was not a problem.  But from the ten minute walk from the parking garage to the building that I worked in, was problematic.  There were other contributing factors as well, such as stress load, if I was starting my day off in a bad way, that would also impact my breathing.  Once inside, it would take anywhere between 30-45 minutes, though there were at least a handful of episodes that lasted over an hour.

Complete pulmonary function testing and imaging only confirmed that I do have limited lung capacity and functionality.  These episodes are not fun, and definitely not convenient, especially when you have a timeline you have to meet.

Having the knowledge that I was likely to face an episode, and that I knew how to deal with one if it occurred, and I could count on it to be resolved, the only thing left to do, was to prevent it.

When it came to dealing with heat and humidity, there was not much I could do to avoid the conditions, other than remaining indoors when conditions were not favorable.  Definitely not convenient, but my employer appreciated the fact that I spent a lot of time, reliably, working overtime hours just so that I did not need to take the long, hot, and humid walk to my car.  At home, in spite of having a cozy inground swimming pool, there was no relief as long as my head was above the water, and I was breathing the hot and humid air in.  There was little I could do, other than just follow my plans to deal with the episodes when they came on.

Cooler weather was a different story.  Though my ski scarf had spent its last many years in storage, I began to use the scarf to filter the cooler air before it got into my lungs.  But the image of me wearing this scarf, when the temperature was only hitting below sixty degrees (with heavy wind), or below fifty degrees or lower without wind, I got my balls busted a lot by my co-workers.

You see, I was known for not dressing appropriately for the cold weather, wearing shorts as late as January, in 20 degree weather.  But it had gotten to the point, with either cool blowing air, or frigid air, I needed to do what I could do, to prevent these episodes from happening.  And it helped.

So, years ago, I moved to one of the hottest and most humid states in the country, an odd move given this lung condition.  There is no ideal climate for me to live in.  But during the hottest summer months, I do spend most of my time indoors, in the air conditioning.  My time spent outdoors if I must, is limited usually from car to building, and almost never during peak heat and humid conditions.

But during the Fall and Winter months, unlike back in Pennsylvania, I have reduced the frequency of the colder attacks nearly 85%.  The most extreme temperatures I normally have to deal with, end up briefly in the fifties at most two weeks, at which I pull out the ski scarf.  It does come in handy for sure whenever I have to travel north during the colder months.

Yes, it looks odd, wearing a ski scarf in southwest Florida, but it serves its purpose, not for how it was intended.  Warmer temperatures will come back in another day or so, and then it will be back to the cloth mask again to protect me from exposure to Covid19, another unintended use for those masks.  Just like my ski scarf, it serves its purpose.

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