Paul's Heart

Life As A Dad, And A Survivor

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Pinochle


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One of my favorite things to do, during my break at work, was to sit at our break room table and play a card game with co-workers, called “pinochle.”  It has been awhile since those days, and I do not really remember all of the rules, but I definitely remember the object of the game.  The game is played with four people, with teams of two partnering up.  With the cards dealt, each team tries to outbid the other team to gain control of the hand, and then it is up to one team, to meet the number of points that were bid, and it is up to the other team to prevent that from happening.  Seems like an even challenge, two versus two.

It is a relatively easy game to learn, but it can be frustrating for a seasoned card player, accustomed to playing the hands of the game with certain strategies and certain cards being played to either make the bid, or “set” the other team back in points.  But there were many times, even after years of playing the game, I would be paired up with someone, who definitely was much better at the game than I was, would make the following comment at me, “playing with you is like playing against three people,” making reference that my plays actually helped the other teams.  It was not something I did intentionally.  It is just that in this game, and I stress it was just a game, I was not playing to win at all costs, and this frustrated him.  I played the game because I enjoyed it.

But in life, there is a concept very similar to the comment made by my former co-worker.  While not everything in life may not be perfect, or work out perfectly, and those involved in life, and notice, I am not saying the “game of life”, because life is not a game, actually can create the same atmosphere, whether unintentionally or on purpose.  There are those that you count on, to work with you, to understand you, to support you, which is not to be confused with “siding with someone,” but when their decisions are made, much like certain moves made in pinochle, it feels like you are taking on more than you thought.  Only there is more at stake than bragging rights at a card table.

An Astounding And Humbling Number


I am sitting here completely humbled.

20,000 views.  WOW!!!

Though my current efforts and goals with “Paul’s Heart” have changed over the last two years, the purpose behind it has not.

Writing is therapeutic.  Not just for the patient putting his feelings and concerns onto paper, but also for those who read what they cannot put into words themselves.  The writing does not have to be anything published.  It can be a simple comment  on a post-it note.  It is a simple concept, being able to bring out and internal feeling releases at least some burden and stress.  And that is therapeutic.  Getting to release any kind of negative energy, when you have nowhere else to turn, writing allows that.

I have always enjoyed writing.  And over the last several years, I have been given many opportunities to have many of my writings published.  And with my published works, not only do I provide therapy for myself with the many trials and tribulations that I deal with, my posts and stories provide therapy to those reading them.  Because I write from experience, good or bad, it is my hope that readers can relate to my stories.  And by relating to my stories, hopefully the reader can come away with a feeling, that perhaps the struggles that they are dealing with, are not only normal, that they are not alone, and that the struggles can be overcome.  And that is therapeutic.

I wish “Paul’s Heart” could be an endless supply of Euphoria type stories.  But that is not realistic.  We do have to deal with some bad things in our lives.  And it is a difficult balance that I try to maintain when I write these posts.  I view the results with the statistics on each story I write about.

There is so much more to come on “Paul’s Heart.”  But for now, I want to humbly thank each and every one of your for your support and your encouragement.

Pet Zen


So it happened again, my heart fell in love with another dog.  I am able to let my common sense rule as I know I am in no position to adopt another fur friend.  I live in an apartment which of course does not allow pets.  At this point, affording a pet is still an issue while I try to take care of myself.  And yes, I do still miss Pollo, so much.

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And it is only common sense that has prevented me from adopting another fur friend.  Right now, I could really use the healing benefits of a canine companion.  For nearly fifteen years, Pollo was a never-ending smile greeting me at the end of every work day, as if I was only gone from his side for just a moment, while in reality, I was away from home anywhere from eight to ten hours a day.  He never questioned where I was, why I was late, why I may not have been in the best of moods, or if I was not feeling well, he just knew that we were both happy when we were together.  I really still miss that.

So as I go for walks, it is inevitable that I will cross paths with other people walking their pets.  Now let me say for the record, I have owned all kinds of animals, and I have always done my best to make sure that they all lived normal life expectancies.  In total, 3 dogs, 9 cats, 2 gerbils, 2 guinea pigs, a rabbit, 2 frogs, an assortment of fish, and even a parakeet.  Yes, I love animals.

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The peace, comforting, and healing effect of animals is becoming so popular now, that it is common place for pets to visit patients in hospitals and oncology offices to help boost the spirits of patients.  The pooch pictured above, a “golden doodle, actually visited my late father on his very first day receiving chemotherapy.  How times have changed since my days receiving cancer treatments.

But anyway, this post is just about a wish, that some day, I get to share friendship with another canine friend some day.  While I like all animals, big and small, I do have a tendency to  favor large breed dogs.  And because I have small children, actually who are growing quite quickly, behavior of the breed is very important.

Of course, I will still favor the Golden Retriever.  I remember playing alpha male with Pollo, and at times we could get carried away, and one of my daughters would try to join in the fun, but Pollo recognized that my daughter was not me, and knew the difference and concentrated his efforts on establishing alpha with me.

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And I will state, I love all retriever breeds, though there are some that do not have the demeanor to deal with children as reliably Goldens.  But there are other big breeds that I have always thought I would consider when the time comes and I can afford them, spend time with them, and emotionally, is the right time.

But if I had other choices, they would be these three breeds:

Pyrenese   The Great Pyrenees

newfoundland    The Newfoundland

And then there is the breed that prompted this post today…

Burmese    The Burmese Mountain Dog

Yes, I love big dogs.  All of these breeds have wonderful dispositions.  I know when the time comes, I will most likely go through rescue organizations and not pet stores.  And my reason is simple, the majority of puppies and dogs sold in pet stores come from puppy mills.  And I know anyone affiliated with a  pet store who sells dogs will object and say that it is not true.  And those pet stores are relying on semantics.  You see, the pet store is most likely buying their dog from a “broker”.  But a broker is not a breeder, simply just another step in the puppy mill process because a broker is the one who buys the dogs, most likely from a puppy mill.  Don’t believe me?  Assuming you have purchased a “pure bred” dog, chances are that the dog’s origin comes from an area overpopulated with puppy mills, like Lancaster County in Pennsylvania.

So yes, when the time comes, rather than contribute to keeping the puppy mills in operation, I will instead do what is of greater need, adoption of a rescue dog instead.  But that is when the time is right.

 

 

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