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Alternative Possibilities


I am not one to be overly superstitious.  I may have a few traditions when it comes to sporting events like not shaving during the hockey playoffs, or not wearing team jerseys on the days of games.  You might say I am fairly closed-minded when it comes to superstitions.  To believe in more serious superstitions, I would have to have a bit more of an open mind.  I do believe things happen for a reason.  But something happened that made me change my mind.

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Almost two years ago, my Golden Retriever Pollo developed a very bad injury, one that I did not think he would recover from eventually.  In fact, the realization was that I might have to consider putting him down.  But then I heard among co-workers, that someone in our building was practicing an alternative therapy for animals called “pet Reiki.”  Now I had heard the term “Reiki” before, and in almost every conversation I heard, everyone enjoyed the way they felt afterwards.  Originally I was quite indifferent to what I would have just considered simple relaxation, and who does not enjoy that.  But people actually were mentioning that many of their debilitating pains had improved, allowing them more enjoyment in their lives.

I felt that I had nothing to lose.  Pollo was not getting better, and it was getting more difficult to take care of him.  So I invited Jenny (pictured above) to come over and perform “dog Reiki” on Pollo.  Normally Pollo is very excitable, even at his age, but he just laid there as she knelt beside him, put her hands on his back hips which were the cause of his discomfort.  Within a minute, he fell asleep.  I was astounded.  The session went on for twenty minutes and when she finished, Pollo lifted his head up as if in protest, and I offered Jenny for another twenty minutes.

The next day, Pollo was actually improving as it took less assistance for him to be able to stand and support his own weight.  By the second day, he was actually trotting around the back yard.  Something had happened to him, I just could not believe that it was simply healing hands “drawing out” the pain as Jenny had done.  But I could not argue with what I had seen.

So a year later, when Pollo’s issue would relapse, even more serious, I felt I had to give him one more try with Reiki.  And again, it worked.  I could no longer just dismiss this type of therapy as “hoodoo voodoo.”  It worked.  I do not know how, but an animal has no concept of what placebo means so it is not as if a human faked injury or recovery.  He was actually better where vet medicine failed to help him.

I bring this up for a reason.  I like to think that I have an opened mind.  I definitely do not judge people for their beliefs, especially when it comes to superstitions.  But having Jenny help Pollo like she did, I have learned that sometimes you have to go beyond the conventional, and what might not make sense, does not have to.  It just is.

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I am not saying I believe in hanging garlic on my door to keep away vampires… not yet at least.  But perhaps there might just be something to the following superstitions:

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The Pennsylvania Dutch hang horse shoes on their doors to keep bad luck out of the home.

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And of course, the Irish have the four-leaf clover.  Probably the most popular symbol of good luck next to the “lucky rabbit’s foot” which is not really that lucky if you are the rabbit.

But the Italians take superstition to a whole different level, called “il maloccho”, the “evil eye.”  “Mal” meaning “evil” and “occhio” referring to optical.  This is actually a curse that is placed on someone to wish them ill or harm.

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It is said that by placing water in a bowl, and three drops of olive oil, the reaction of the oil to the water determines if you have “il maloccio”.  If the oil stays separate, all is good.  But if the oil droplets join together, this forms what is called the “evil eye” and yep, you have the curse.  There are remedies for this:

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Hanging a scissors (some say with a red ribbon)

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A simple charm very similar in resemblance to a chili pepper, anywhere on your possession, along with salt, or simply spoken Italian prayers are said to lift the curse.

Some things have been happening as of late which have made no sense to me and not all good.  Perhaps it might be time to consider some of these possibilities.  It was Jenny that opened my mind to the possibilities of non-conventional means and it worked then.

World Cancer Day 2015


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After 24, years, and 11 months, my website is on its day-to-day countdown to a very important day for me.  But today is a big day on its own.  Today is World Cancer Day.

Please, today, take a moment to think about someone you know, battling this awful disease.  Call them up on the telephone and just say “hi” and let them know that you are thinking about them.  If you are friends with someone on FB or some other social media site, send them a message or inspirational photo to give them a boost that might just be what is needed at that moment.

If you have lost someone to cancer, spend a silent moment, thought, or prayer for the one that you mourn.

Today is also a good day to start thinking about what you might be able to make a difference in the world of cancer.  The Relay For Life, Light The Night, Susan Komen breast cancer walk, and all of the other fundraisers are just some examples of how you can make a difference.

I am approaching my 25th anniversary of the completion of my treatment for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.  There are so many out there still fighting, and I have lost too many.  But when I think about cancer, it is not just Hodgkin’s that has affected my life, but all cancers.

I cannot possibly name everyone that I am thinking about on this day.  But there is one person that I want to recognize.  And it is because of her attitude and belief that not only got her through her journey with cancer, but it is her fighting spirit that is going to get her through yet another major life challenge, recovering from a horrific car accident.  She has some major hurdles to overcome, but Kristi, if anyone can get through this, I know that you can.  You have such a strong family, strong faith, and strong spirit.  On this day Kristi, I am taking everything that I know about you, your battles with cancer and survival, and sending as many thought and prayers for nothing less than a 100% recovery.

Super Bowl Eve


I have been a diehard Seattle Seahawk fan nearly forever.  I have put up with so many losing seasons, so many years without playoff games.  That is not to say that there have not been years that the Seahawks did not do well, it just did not happen that often.

In the first hint of an improvement in the team, came one fateful day when the Seahawks would face the Green Bay Packers for the NFC championship on the frozen tundra of Lambeau Field.  It was a good game, championship caliber, until regulation ended, and Seattle’s quarterback decided to pull a “Joe Namath” and during the coin toss, instead of just calling the side of coin, decided to add, “because we’re going to win.”  Unlike Broadway Joe who actually won his game that he bragged about, Matt Hasselback threw an interception to a Packer that scored the winning points.

But in 2006, magic and consistency developed for the Seahawks.  So much so, I had a gut feeling that it was going to be their year.  Unlike the boast made by the former quarterback, I had something else to be the deciding factor of the Seahawks going to the Super Bowl, Murphy’s Law.

I was due to travel to China to adopt my youngest daughter.  And as the timing drew near, my fears would come true.  There was a good chance that I would not get to watch the Super Bowl not only for the first time in my life, but the Seahawks would actually be in the Super Bowl.  I even joked with a friend that he should “bet his house” on the Seahawks beating the St. Louis Rams for the NFC championship.  “I am telling you, the Seahawks are going to win the NFC championship, and go to the Super Bowl, and I will not get to see it because I will be flying to China.

The Seahawks beat the Rams to go to the Super Bowl.  And I was flying over the North Pole during kick-off.  When I landed in Hong Kong, I called my father to let him know that we had landed, my father, who knew as much about football and I did about Nascar (he may have known the color of a football, and I knew cars went around in circles).  My father broke the news to me that it was good that I did not get to see the game and then began to rattle off one statistic after another, clearly he was paying attention to the announcers.  But the Seahawks had lost to the Pittsburg Steelers.

And so, with a 13 hour time difference, Emmalie was placed in my arms later that Super Bowl Sunday.

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I never did get to see the game.  I had DVRed the game, but technology combined with my desire to record the game in HD… memory had been filled during the two weeks we were gone, and the Super Bowl, being the oldest program, was deleted from the memory.

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But every year, I would get my daughters into the Seahawk spirit to route along with Daddy, and cheer on the Seahawks.

So last year, should have been the year that I finally got to enjoy the Seahawks return to the Super Bowl with a rising star at quarterback.  I had been planning on hosting a Super Bowl party, but had decided against it, as I was in the middle of my divorce, and instead watched the Seahawks dismantle the Denver Broncos for their first Super Bowl Championship from my laptop.

Here we are, the Seahawks have the chance to repeat as Super Bowl Champions, the first time since it was done last, by the opponents they face tomorrow, the New England Patriots.  All controversies aside, all I want to see is a good game.  I wish my daughters were here with me to see it, but I will be surrounded by friends who remind every day, that my daughters are always with me, in my heart.  This time of year always means more to me than just a game.

My pick… Seattle 24    New England 20

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