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On No! It’s Snow!


Next week is going to be a very busy week, and a very important week.  I suppose I will get a lot of time to prepare for it this weekend as the weather fearmongerers are at it again.  We are to prepare for a snow storm of historic proportion.  My area is not expected to get hit as hard as say New England, but I need to take this storm, called Nemo, seriously.

Seriously.  Nemo?  An epic disasterous snow storm has been named after one of Disney’s most beloved characters?  I wonder if there are royalties in it for ABC for every time the Weather Channel mentions the name.  I do not see the point to have to give snow storms names now, but it looks like it is something I have to accept.

But again, seriously, the weather service could not come up with a more ferocious or evil name that begins with an “N”?  Nosferatu.  Napoleon.  Nixon.  Nina (of 99 Luftballoons).

In areas of severe amounts of snowfall, you never hear local residents express fear, despiration, panic as today’s trends seem to take us.  Syracuse, Erie, Denver, Minnesota all see more snow in one day often more than we see in an entire year.  Growing up, I remember being able to shovel out tunnels from the snow piles, barely able to lift my legs above the surface of the snowfall.  Of course, as a child, this often meant a snow day off from school.  Snowball battles, skiing, forts, were all the pure enjoyment of a major snowfall.

I recall in my high school years, attending school in a district that did not provide bus transportation, we never saw snow days.  You either took public transportation, a relative drive you to school, or you walked.  Now if you will excuse me, I will now channel my grandparents for the following speech… “why, when I was a kid, I had to walk uphill and downhill, four miles each way, across high bridges, heavy rains, head high snow piles and…”  Phew they are gone just before they can add “barefoot”.  But where I lived that is exactly what happened.  Whenever I visit home with my family, I am always quick to remind them, I actually did it.

But on February 11, 1983, we did get hit with a major snow storm that did have an impact on school, over two feet.  It did shut everything down.  But I definitely do not recall every hearing “end of the world” tones and having to rush out and strip the shelves of everything from bread to toilet paper.  It would snow.  The snow would stop.  We would shovel.  Then move on.  In fact, while many schools had cancelled even the next day, our schools were open, even without a delay.

I still love the snow today.  I have had to alter my lifestyle a bit due to recent health issues.  My heart surgery caused an approximate ten degree drop in temperature tolerance meaning the cold bothers me a little easier.  To think, just five years ago, I was still wearing shorts in January and February regardless of the weather.  Pulmonary issues make it a little more difficult to trudge in the snow.  But then of course, there is age.  Once we hit our mid-30’s it seems we become concerned with the act of shoveling snow.  It is a fact, that snow shoveling is one of the more strenuous acts many of us do, made worse by the fact that it is not often that we have to do it, and we do not train for it.  But we have heard story after story of someone having a heart attack while shoveling snow.

Nearly five years ago, unknowingly, I could have faced that fate.  With a fatal condition developing over the years from radiation therapy for my Hodgkin’s Disease, the main artery to my heart at that point of winter was now close to 90% blocked or scarred.  As it would be discovered just two months later during a stress test, it was literally seconds before the blood flow was restricted to my heart.  I felt it happen.  It scared me.  I stopped.  The feeling stopped.  I went about my business.  Until April.  Following that stress test and subsequent heart bypass surgery, I was told that I had actually prevented what was destined to be a fatal heart attack.  This should have been enough of an attention-getter.

The following winter after my heart surgery, I must admit, I was outside with the snow shovel as always.  I have a three care driveway and approximately 150 feet of sidewalk to shovel.  That winter was not particularlly difficult as far as deep amounts or frequency of storms, but I was out there with shovel in hand.  I found out, that I have neighbors as well, who knew of my health history and quickly came out with their own shovels and snow blowers scolding me to put the shovel down and get back inside.

But being from a stubborn family, I believed that I could still shovel.  Two things I did under my own power, mow my lawn and shovel snow.  Last winter, I finally caved in.  After the first of three decent snowfalls, I could tell that my body was no longer up to shoveling, lifting, and tossing snow.  To push it any harder would have been foolish.  And I know that (see the post “Stress Kills).  So prior to the second storm, I broke down and got a snowblower.  And it was not so bad using it.  And I could still enjoy being out in the snow, and not end up being “out” in the snow.

So for those of us in the path of the Might Nemo, have fun, do not be afraid.  Snow is no different than when we were children.  But the consequences of not using common sense as adults is what is to be of concern.  If you must shovel, pay the neighbor kid to do it.

writer’s note = I woke up this morning (February 9th) to a history, epic, monstrous two inches of dry powder snow.  Of course, the local grocery store shelves were empty, gas got bumped up a nickel a gallon just in time… thank you Nemo and the weather mongerers for the shot into the local economy you gave us.

Reality TV Bites! My Pitch To The Major Networks


Shows based on reality.  Oh, the humanity!
“You’re gonna lose your mind watchin’ TV” Oh, and “Fear Factor” I watched maybe a half hour after that, felt like I needed a long shower
Network execs with naked ambitions, “Next week on FOX, watch lions eat Christians”.  Leech-covered grub-eatin’ fools on “Survivor”
I love shows with or without a plot I’ll stare ’til my legs are numb, my eyes bloodshot
Because I only have got One brain to rot
I’m gonna spend my life watching television a lot

These lyrics are from Wierd Al Yankovic’s song parody “Couch Potato”.  I have intentionally only copied the references to reality television.  You can read the complete lyrics on any web page.  Late last year I attended a cancer survivor event.  One of the speakers was a head honcho at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center.  When he finally began speaking he mentioned the uncomfortable feeling he got referring to former cancer patients as “survivors”.  Survivor is often a term we associate with war, accidents, natural disasters.  I am paraphrasing, but that is the gist of what he said.  I believe he was attributing it to the duration of the event and the effects following it.  I would go one step further as far as using the word survivor, not just for cancer patients, but those who have survived war, disasters, and other tragic events.  I believe the word “survivor” has been cheapened by “reality TV”.

I will admit that I do watch an occasional reality show, but it is very rare.  The whole concept of someone volunteering to be put in precarious positions, be paid for it, and referring to the victor as a survivor is insulting and demeaning to those who have had no choice, who are not given a financial opportunity to recover (or in the TV world, profit from their effort or gain their fifteen minutes of fame).

Seriously, take a look around your waiting room.  In walks your doctor with a TV producer, and about a dozen people whom you do not recognize.  Since you do not know any of the visitors it is up to the doctor to introduce to you, what is about to happen.

“I have been approached by this major network about a new reality show about getting through a battle with cancer.  These people have all volunteered to be given the same cancer, and the same treatments.  There will be challenges where they will be given the opportunity for extra treatments, or denied treatments.  Competitions will determine what order people would receive their treatments.  Losing challenges would also carry consequences.  Every week, one contestant will be sent home by vote from the real patients who are not here for the TV show, where they will then have to find their own treatment plan.  The last one standing, or surviving, will be the winner of a million dollars.  As participants as observers, we will make sure that you get a year’s supply of TV guides to make sure you know just when the show is airing.  Sound good?”

Of course this scenario is prerposterous, and offensive.  But many times, when I watch shows like Survivor, Big Brother, Fear Factor, and now all these sub-class shows like Redneck Vacations and a show mocking an overweight child because her parents are too stupid to realize the damage they are causing, I do not want to be held in the same descriptive sense of the word survivor.  I have been through too much for my journey to be so understated just because it did not appear on some remote island.  My psychological battles are far worse than a group of spoiled egotistical jerks who believe the only way to get by is by being deceiptful, and disloyal.

We cancer patients are kind of funny with the labels that healthy people, and sometimes other cancer patients like to place on us.  Survivor.  Warrior.  And I am not going to rip on people who watch the reality shows.  But just once, I would like to see a major network produce a series and stick with it, about true survivors, not volunteers, we were forced into our situations.  We were not made into millionaires because of it, but there are literally millions of us, over twelve million.  Many of us have additional issues, and most do not know why.  Stand Up 2 Cancer is doing great by drawing attention to supporting research to find new cures and support, but we need something to show that people do live long lives in spite of their greatest challenge in life.  A walk around a track at your local Relay For Life is lined with luminairies with the names of people who have faced cancer and beaten it.  I would like to see a Nationally televised Relay For Life with at least half of the program dedicated to survivors and perhaps expanding the Stand Up 2 Cancer to include the various issues that survivors face after treatments from psychological to medical.  Just once, I would like to see a real reality show that is not based on backstabbing, lying, and degrading.  I would like to see true success and show people how success is really celebrated and appreciated.

Pollo, The Happy Golden


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Wendy and I were dating close to a year, when we both acknowledged our love for dogs.  We both had dogs when we were youngter, but as adults, never had the opportunity.  We both had our favorite breeds, but there was no denying who we were going to adopt when we met the little golden ball of fur.

Pollo was a tiny fourteen pounds of pure puppy energy.  Wendy had two cats when we moved in with each other, and they both adapted to Pollo.  They were all the same size.  I have video tape of Pollo and Dusty (our gray cat, sadly no longer with us) playing with each other, wrestling all over the floor knocking things over.  Dusty loved to hide on the steps and as Pollo walked by, without warning, would lunge off the stairs at Pollo in a feline ambush.  It was hysterical.

As he grew, we talked about the need to “take care” of Pollo.  We were not going to be breeding him (another post), and we did not need any accidents.  The other thing we did not want to have happen, is Pollo humping anyone.  I have only ever had one dog ever jump on my leg, and it was not funny.  But what was funny, is Pollo’s instinct.  In spite of not having any example, had he seen a female dog, he definitely would have known what to do.

We came home from a carnival with a prize that I had won for Wendy that evening.  It was a Siberian Husky stuffed toy, about sixteen inches tall, the perfect height for Pollo at the time.  It was not long before we nicknamed the toy, “humpy dog”.  Well, Pollo got bigger, and too much for “humpy dog”, it was only logical that he left other dogs alone, did not hump anyone’s legs, that we had to get Pollo something more his size.  Enter “Humpy Bear.”  Pollo was just past thirty pounds when we brought “Humpy Bear” home and they were best pals ever since.   If you ever had a stuffed toy that over time had years of kid drool all over it, well, that was “Humpy Bear.”  But Pollo could not get enough of her.  We actually had to put her away just to give Pollo some rest.  But anytime we went near the garage door, Pollo knew she was just on the other side.

Pollo has never been anything less than a loyal friend.  His feeding serving is split between the morning and evening, and he spends his days with two other felines and a guinea pig while we are at work.  As we come through the door, his tail never stops wagging and he has a grin from one side of his muzzle to the other.  “Quick, let me out, feed me, let me back out, then pick a spot, sit down, and I’ll lay down next to you.”  And that is where he stays the rest of the night, by my side.

Every now and then, my youngest daughter likes to challenge me that Pollo is “her dog.”  And once in a while, he will oblige her and disobey me to follow her commands.  But night after night, here he is, by my feet, dreaming away.  When he wakes up, he wants to be taken out again, and will then come back in and stay by my side.

Pollo will turn thirteen soon, which is long for a golden retriever.  I have lots of great memories with him.  His energy level is the same as it was twelve years ago, though he has given up humping stuffed animals.  But he still sits in front of me, when he wants to go outside, with the smile that has never stopped.

Happy Birthday Pollo.  On days that I was not feeling well, you were there for me.  When I needed to relax, we went for nice walks.  And when I felt the need for competition, you jumped into the pool with me from the diving board.  Pollo, you are truly this man’s best friend.

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