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Why Paul’s Heart?


Why “Paul’s Heart” and why now?

I began “Paul’s Heart” as a step to writing a book, about what, I do not know.  As you can see, I am trying to keep all my options on this blog.  Perhaps, just as important, what I am trying to write about, is why?  I believe that some how, if I can reach even just one person who has gone through similar an experience like I have, or perhaps even inspired by someone who has had to deal with for so much.

But what if that person has no way to express how he or she feels.  I am hoping that this blog does just that, give everyone a voice.  By recognizing me and my limitations, they know that they will take care of us all.  I am laying it all out there.  It is a huge risk on my part because of employment, insurance, and just plain mean people.

However I am hoping that if that time should ever come that my health issues result in a bad judgment against me, as long as my blog has helped one person, then “Paul’s Heart” has been worth it to me.  If you are that one person, I am willing to be your voice.  I am willing to stand by you and help you find the care that you need.  I am willing to offer genuine encouragement and tell you it is okay when you do not want it.

Money Well Spent?


Yesterday was a full day for me, in other words, a typical Saturday.  The only difference, I actually had the day off which meant I finally get to spend some time with my daughters.  Because of my involvement with the school board election, I have become more involved in the activities in the school district from attending not only district meetings, but school functions like musicals, athletic events, fundraisers, and like yesterday, a competition called the Odyssey Of The Mind.

I am still much too unfamiliar to give it the proper description that it deserves, but from the small bit that I was able to catch, the competition is clearly and example of the good things that can come from a public education.  Teams of students from elementary to middle schools compete in teams with creative problems, find solutions, and then act them out.  Some problems are planned out, some are impromptu.  Some have props, other problems the children are given the tools or props to work or solve their problems.

Last year, two of our district teams went on from the competition, to compete at the state level, and one of those teams went on to the World competition.

This was the first time that I had attended the event, and was completely overwhelmed by the thousands in attendance.  There were so many schools, so many children.  I got to speak with some of our schools’ children, parents and coaches.  And that is when I heard the sad part.  This particular event, the Odyssey Of The Mind is not supported or sponsored by our school district.  Of all of the things that our district and school board approve to fund, this educational learning challenge is not funded at all by the district.  The money for these competitions come completely from the parents who participate or if lucky, a principal who believes in this experience for the children.  These expenses can hit the thousands of dollars when all is said and done.  Please note, I am not speaking about the other schools that are represented.

I do not know the results of the competition just yet, and I am waiting for the phone call.  But I did want to recognize the efforts of the children and the parents for the hard work for the last six months in preparation for this competition.  And one of the things that I would like to do if elected, is to make sure that our schools are supported in these scholastic efforts.

Listed below, are the platforms that my fellow candidates and I wrote to be our main talking points during the election.  Of course, there are so many other issues to cover, but will not possibly fit on a postcard when mailed out, and to be honest, I cannot think of many people that want to hear any of us drone on for hours about all of the problems that we have become aware of since our first runs for this office.

 

  • Progress for ALL students

Equip all students with better resources for success.  The measure of our students is stated in AYP – Adequate Yearly Progress.  The district has been fond of making the claim that our schools make AYP every year.  But what the district does not tell you, is that when the scores are broken down, too many of our individual subgroups do not even come close to making AYP.  Minorities, economically disadvantaged, and special ed students are multiple victims of this misrepresentation of facts in reading and math results.

  • Straight talk, open doors

Promote community involvement through active dialogue.  Average attendance of a school board meeting 3-5 people, out of over 12,000 families, not including taxpayers.  If you want to find something out from our district, you will not get an answer without going through the tedious, burdensome, and if necessary to pursue a denied appeal, costly process.

  • Maximize our district’s potential

Invest in success with new resources.  No-bid processes hamper this effort, such as with our district’s architect who just this, was called out by a new board member, when the board recommended the architect’s approval without having gone to bid.

  • Advocate for world class public education

Provide a stronger voice in Harrisburg.  We rely on our local representatives to fight for the sixth largest school district.  Yet one example is the charter school process in our district.  Our district is in no need of a charter school, has plenty of private and Catholic schools, and given the current funding formula of the charter schools, would devastate our district and taxpayers.  Our school board did the right thing, but three of our four local legislators support our governor’s charter school agenda at all costs, one legislator even being a founder of one charter school.  The appeal is expected to be a joke and overturned, throwing the burden back on our district.  Our district needs to make a presence in Harrisburg.

  • Support those who make our district work

Recognition and fair treatment of all personnel.  Verbal attacks and criticisms of teachers, by the administration and board must stop.  The demoralization of the secretaries and support staff such as maintenance, cafeteria workers, and bus drivers must stop.  For those who vocalize against unions, the last section of workers do not belong to a union, and their reward is one of constant “take away”.  The district is doing what it can to reduce hours of a bus driver to eliminate the health benefits.  The cafeteria staff is continuing to dwindle in numbers creating a very unsafe situation.  There are more examples.  This cannot continue to happen which ultimately will have an impact on the children.

  •  Embrace the diversity of the NPSD

Identify and build its cultural wealth encouraging respect for all.  If I recall, our district has the challenge of dealing with over 75 languages (without checking my notes, I believe that number is much higher).  And all of our cultures have so much to offer the district, yet that resource clearly remains untapped.

 

So after visiting the Odyssey Of The Mind Competition, the above statements were what I was working on next, actually the entire campaign effort.  I have three other awesome candidates with each of us offering something unique.  And even stronger, we have a great campaign staff who is doing the leg work and muscle to make sure that we have the support and opportunity to spread the word, that we hear the concerns of the people of the district, and we want to help.  But we need the help come May 21st, Primary Election Day in Pennsylvania.

It’s My Daughters’ Fault


Years ago, blame went to the Japanese.  Then it shifted to Mexico.  And as our economy continues to struggle, the whipping post as of late has been the Chinese.  The war cry comes from all directions and it is one of the most generalized statements that someone can make.  “It’s The Chinese’s Fault.”  I am never sure if this is meant to point blame at the entire physical country of China, certain areas, the people, or the government.

I am by no means an economist so I cannot present a strong enough debate on import versus export, and all the other economic factors that tie between countries.  But I can say this, without a shadow of a doubt, that the Chinese people themselves are not to blame.

I heard my first anti-China remark years ago, when Wendy and I decided to adopt our daughters.  A co-worker of mine, who considered himself to be a fairly religious person utter the following comments:

“You know, I don’t support what you are going to do.”

Well at first, I figured “so what – who the hell are you to criticize or judge me?”  Or was he one of the few individuals who actually believe if a couple (intentionally saying couple because he probably did not approve of single parenting either) cannot have a child biologically, that was God’s way of saying that they should not be parents.  Instead, he hit me with a comment that I never ever thought I would have heard from anyone.

“It’s bad enough that we send our jobs overseas, you’re actually bringing someone over to take a job away from someone.”

I would love to just end this post on that ignorant comment.  But really, it is the punctuation mark of all the comments that I have ever heard, put together in the form of a compound sentence.  If they were all written on a piece of paper, I would have crumbled it into a ball and throw it in the trash, where I now felt that co-worker belonged.

The thing is, this ignorance is no different than blaming the Chinese for our economy or the Kardashians.  I cannot confirm it with the Kardashians, but the comments are  defintely hurtful for my daughters.  But day after day, it is the same rhetoric, “it’s the Chinese” or “Chinese merchandise is crap”, and the list goes on.

I was born in Allentown, Pennsylvania.  I have a mixed ethnic heritage, but I am fairly certain, that according to family lineage, I am American by birth only.  I have actually gone back and traced family histories to know that at least one person on each side of my family came from Germany at some point in the 1800’s.

My daughters were sworn in as American citizens on United States soil as part of their adoption.  Yes, they will identify themselves as Chinese-American, and learn both cultures, but make no mistake, they are American.

But having visited China personally, I want to share some of my observations and experiences.  So to be clear, while in the provincial city, I did not hear a lot of English being spoken and even when we were at Shamian Island, which is very touristy, the people of China were nothing less but courteous, polite, and nice.  There was a bit of curiosity with us being Caucasian and “round eye” (well at least the others, I have what is described as “almond eyes” which often results in me being confused with being Chinese, which I am not).

At least from outside appearances, everyone went about their business.  It was hard to believe that we were walking around in a communist country.  Other than the banks being a LOT more secure having heavily armed guards, the people of China seemed to go through the motions of every day life.  This is not to say that we did not see people that were not as prosperous, but they seemed to be living the only life they know.  In the main part of the capital city, it was quite busy.  But on our second trip, we were actually taken to a village outside of the city.

The village looked like a “third world” site.  Any flooring was concrete, but more often than not, it was dirt.  There were no visible wiring so the village clearly had no power, and there did not seem to be any plumbing as evidenced by an elderly woman carrying two buckets of waste balanced on a pole atop of her shoulders heading out to a field to dispose of.  Rubble was scattered all over.  But this village was considered a “farming” village.  And the fields were huge.  Most likely grown children were working in major cities for income as we saw mainly either older adults or small children.  To say they lived modestly is an understatement.

While back in the city, we learned very quickly the value of the American dollar.  The exchange rate, which is often ridiculed by the United States and many of its citizens was around 8 of their dollars to every one of ours.  A bottle of Coke was bought for less than 50 cents while at home here in the US, it cost me $1.75.  Why such a disparity for the same bottle, the same serving, the same taste, the same formula.  Yet clearly China was able to make a profit on this product, as everything else.  But the US made an additional $1.25 on the sale of that bottle of Coke and it is the fault of the Chinese that our economy is in trouble?

I came home with a couple of baseball caps from China.  I paid three dollars (24 yuan) for each hat.  At home in the US, those same hats would be sold in Walmart for at least twenty bucks if not more.  Again, if the Chinese are able to make a profit from three dollars, and the US companies can actually convince its citizens to spend up to $17 more, how is this the fault of the Chinese?

For just sixty American dollars, we had a special oil painting hand painted while we were in China, that would have cost us well over $200 at home. 

painting

The only thing that the Chinese are at fault of, is not going for full-on profit.  I am not in total denial.  I have seen documentaries on television that show products made in China, and made in “sweat shops” or underage workers.  Sadly, I think they exist everywhere in the world, and that does not make it right.

But to blame the Chinese “people” for our economy, it is simply not fair.  If it is a political thing, then it needs to be clarified.  My daughters are United States citizens of Chinese descent.  They are proud of their heritage as am I.  But try to explain to a ten year old, when they overhear an adult conversation and hear the word China and the words “fault” or “blame” and then hear the accompanying anger, that the comments are not made for them.  As they ask for an explanation, and they say it almost with embarrassment or shame, “but I’m Chinese.”  No one is making any other distinction.  It is only the fault of the Chinese.

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