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Everyone Can Chill Without A Pill

There has been a lot of discussion on many of my FB feeds, fellow patients and survivors experiencing struggles with anxiety, depression, and stress.  And today’s post does not have to be just about cancer patients and survivors, it is really about everyone.  We all deal with it.

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First, I will be the first one to say “no” to prescriptions to assist with stress and anxiety.  And I have my reasons that go beyond an industry that just cares about profit over patient.  Unless there is something physiological at issue, then the prescription method does nothing to solve the problem, it only masks the problem.  And if you actually listen to the commercials or read the magazine ads, the potential side effects can be startling.

I wrote last week about making the decision for psychotherapy.  And I actually like this option, because the therapist that I had been seeing, did not prescribe drugs.  She had a PH. D in psychiatry, but she knew how to handle the many emotional issues I had as a cancer survivor, without prescribing any drugs.  She was also instrumental in teaching me how to deal with daily stresses on top of my survivor issues.

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I have made no secret either, I am 100% in support of medicinal marijuana usage.  There is no debate to the benefits that it provides to everyone suffering either physically or emotionally.  It is my hope that in the near future, this debate ends once and for all.  Smoking and alcohol and prescription drugs all cause more harm and are all legal, than any possible damage caused by someone using weed medically.

But I do want to show that there are even more alternatives to learning to alleviate stress and anxiety and depression.  Some come with ease, and some take practice, time, and routine.

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The first tool that I use to relax and unwind, and am actually doing it now while I am writing (I love Pandora), costs absolutely nothing unless you are going to see a nationally known popular band.  Music is available to us 24 hours a day, and other than purchasing some songs off of ITunes, we can listen to it for free, any time that we want.  Every minute of my chemo treatments, and during my radiation treatments, I had ear buds on.

In fact, on a recent drive,  a song came on the radio that actually threw me right back to 1989 during my treatments.

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A very popular song, and controversial video, Madonna’s “Like A Prayer” was heard nearly every drive I made for my treatments.  Over the course of my treatments, I heard thousands of songs, but I definitely credit the ability that music had to “take me away”, even just mentally from the cruel things I had to go through, just to survive.

Today, I listen to music, I sing to music, and am learning new ways to appreciate music, all of which cost nothing.  I can sit and listen to a local band that I follow and enjoy, or I can sing at a local establishment via karaoke.  It literally costs nothing to enjoy something that makes you feel good.

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Bottom line, and I firmly believe, and again, as long as it is nothing chemically of the body, we all possess the power to change our thinking.  And I am not talking about new age beliefs either, and there is nothing wrong with those.  But the simple act of something we do, when altered, has the ability to change our moods and it costs nothing.  By altering our breathing, we change the oxygen going to our brains.  Not to mention, in concentrating on our breathing, we are distracting ourselves from the stress or anxiety of what was in the front of our thoughts.  And it takes practice, but has been scientifically proven, change your breathing, and you change your body’s reactions.  As an example, the exercise I use daily, I sit with my posture straight and arms relaxed at my sides(with some softer music), eyes closed, breathing in through my nose, slowly to a count of 4, and then exhale through my mouth, even more slowly for a count of 5.  I do this ten times every instance, and additionally if needed.  You can try any method of breathing.  It may sound funny, but it does work.

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And finally, something we all take for granted, and costs nothing, exercise.  Clearly exercise makes us feel better.  And you do not have to be a gym rat to get this feeling.  Yoga, a simple walk or bike ride if you are able, all possess the ability to release stress, and reduce anxiety.  Exercise takes as little effort or as much effort as you wish, but the result is the same.  A healthier body not just physically, but emotionally.

Like I said, earlier, I am not saying that prescriptions are not necessary, and I do believe that medicinal marijuana should be a legal option, but there are so many ways to help relax our minds.  And once we have a clearer head, we can actually sit back and look at the things that are causing us distress, anxiety, and even pain, and then deal with them.  But if all we do is throw a pill at something to mask the “pain”, then nothing is solved and all we do is rely on that pill.

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3 thoughts on “Everyone Can Chill Without A Pill

  1. Paul, I want to thank you for this post. I read all of yours, but this one hit all the most important points for me in dealing with the original cancer treatments, and now with late effects (heart failure). I used meditation during my radiation treatments, and I believe it helped me a lot. I now use music a lot and it is very healing. My husband plays guitar and sings, and I’ve started singing some of our favorite songs along with him, and also trying to get back to playing the piano. I think my actively singing and playing is one of the most therapeutic things I do. I also exercise every day. I’m very weak, but I do what I can. And I’m seeing a psychotherapist, which has helped me get down to the anger I was suppressing, about being given the poisonous radiation treatments that are now ruining my quality of life, as well as probably shortening my potential life span. He also gives me a lot of positive things to work on, which helps. I live in an area where there are no doctors who know anything about late effects, so I depend on the list serve being my one connection to information.  My husband has been in terrible pain from a botched surgery on his right foot, and he has gotten a medical marijuana card (we are lucky to live in a state where that’s possible). I’m going to start trying to change my thinking. That will be the toughest part. I need to recover from the terrible doctor (who I will never go back to) who sent me home to die six months ago and told me to call Hospice. She’s still puzzled about why I haven’t called them yet. Thanks again. -Christina Sever

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  2. Thank you for your useful tips !

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