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Hurricane Monday Morning Quarterbacks


“Those people are fools if they don’t evacuate!”

A very easy comment for people to make, when you are not personally affected by any extreme event such as a fire, or as the people along the southeastern seaboard are facing, a major hurricane.

I used to be one of those who frequently made a comment like the one above from the safety of my home, fairly inland geographically, protected from opportunities of brush fires, earth quakes, and direct hits of hurricanes.

But last year, that mentality changed for me.  For the first time in three years that I lived in Florida, I was finally facing the possibility of dealing with a major hurricane.

The order to evacuate, and the decision to disobey the order if made mandatory, is not an easy one for most to make.  Sure, you will have your morons who just want the thrill.  But there are many who do not have the choice.  And now, having survived “Irmageddon” (Hurricane Irma) last year, I now have two different perspectives on how any why someone may be faced, literally, with a life or death decision.

The Path Of The Storm

Just as with Irma last year, the exact path of Florence appears headed for the Carolina coastline, and possibly Virginia.  And that is where the warnings are.  For us with Irma, officials could not determine, if the east coast of Florida was going to get hit, the west coast, or possibly even miss us.  And the fact is, the direction was not known until the day before.  And because Florida is a “vertical” state, running south to north, those that chose to evacuate headed north, but found many obstacles along the way, with the most concerning, once the path of Irma was set on Florida, so was its path, straight up the middle.  Evacuees found themselves racing the hurricane north into Georgia, further into Tennessee.  The question was, “how far north did they need to go to avoid the storm?”

And so, it appears Florence has done the same thing.  Appearing to be steering towards North Caroline, evacuees fleeing south, the storm is now predicted to turn southern as it approaches land, and travel south.

So much uncertainty to deal with, and for many, limited resources, especially financially.

Limited Supplies

As anyone who has gone through a hurricane will tell you, supplies disappear as soon a the first statement of landfall is announced.  Gas runs out.  Water and bread disappear off the shelves at grocery stores.  And people begin to prepare to secure their homes with their storm shutters.

Desperation begins to set in to find supplies, especially gasoline for cars and generators.  People begin to travel further from the area affected, now depleting suppliers who where not only not expecting the rush, they were not prepared.  And their supplies would soon run low or empty.

Racing The Storm

For those who did evacuate from Irma last year, all told the same story.  No gas.  No hotels.  People were booking hotels in northern Florida, realizing that they would not be out of harms way, made reservations further north, but never releasing the southern reservations.  So those fleeing, only saw booked hotels, in spite of having vacancies.  And if you had nowhere to stay, and ran out of gas, you were sitting, waiting to die in a major hurricane.

Preparation And Acceptance

All that any of us could do, if we had no ability to evacuate, was secure ourselves and our residences.  There were shelters available, but for those who have never experienced this type of event, we soon found ourselves unable to “reserve” or apply to stay in a shelter.  And shelters filled very quickly to capacity.

For me, I relied on storm shutters, hoping to survive the storm surge of water.  I did everything I could to make sure that I had supplies from water to batteries (for flashlights and a transistor radio), and of course food rations.  I had not idea what life would be like afterwards.

But one factor that people do need to keep in mind.  First responders have no chance to save your life while in the middle of the storm.  Heart attack, you die.  Problem pregnancy, good luck.  No one will be able to help you.  Live in an apartment building, emergency personnel cannot get to upper floors with a stretcher with no power to operate the elevator.

You make the decision to stay, you know these risks.  And though it may sound like hyperbole, when officials issue warnings to give “next of kin information” to officials, it is quite real.

The Return Home

If this is the first time you are going through something like this, you do not really think about how long it may take to get back home after you evacuate.  And the truth is, it could be quite a while.  Not only may roads not be passible, but supplies take days to arrive, and power could take weeks.  There is nothing to come back to during this time.

Sure, there is the rush to see the damage.  But let me tell you, it is impossible to describe the feelings from the sights of the devastation.  But there is also the want to begin to clean up and rebuild.  Perhaps to get the jump on reporting to the insurance companies is another consideration.  There is a want to return back to normal.

And then, if this is your second go-round with a hurricane, you now have an idea of just how much it costs to evacuate, especially when it is long term, like weeks.  You have to pay for gas, hotels, food, and still pay your monthly bills.

When There Is No Choice

I had no choice.  I had nowhere to go.  I did not have the resources to leave.

There were a lot of factors that went into my decision.  I made all the preparations that I could, and I believed them to be the correct ones for me.  I notified my family of my decisions, and stated what I had done, to not only make it through the hurricane, but how I would communicate, when I could communicate.  I made sure that my family was comforted during the storm.

Which is why I say, before judging those who do not evacuate, not everyone is a just a thrill seeker for this type of emergency.  The majority simply may not have a choice.  But it is much easier to make these decisions from afar.

September 11, 2001 – 17 Years Later


Unlike history class where we studied the many events in our country’s past that we could not really relate to, other than lessons and conversations we had with those who were actually there, September 11, 2001 will never be forgotten for my generation, and those before us.

But for those of us with children born after 2001, the importance of making sure that our children know the true meaning why this date is such a somber date to remember in our history.

Both of my daughters were born after terrorists attacked our country, on our own soil.  They have only been told what I was doing that morning, when I saw the news.  My daughters know that there are two people in my life directly, who suffered the tragic loss of a family member who perished in the attacks on New York City.  They may not remember all the conversations that we have had over the years, as each anniversary passes (they are teenagers after all), but there are conversations that we still  have with each other, that I do not want them to forget.

Many people perished that day, whether in the planes that crashed, from the devastation of the collapsed buildings, or from the lingering effects following the times after that day.

This act was perpetrated by an idea, an extreme idea.  That an entire religion is not to blame for this attack, but rather a section of those who claim that religion, who took their beliefs to such a horrific level of terror.  The truth is, all religions have some history of violence.  But it is those who take their religion to such an extreme level that were behind this horror.

But if there is any good that can be told of this date, is that for a period of time, our country put aside our differences with each other, with the world, and came together.  People from all over came to New York City to help.  Enlistment in our armed forces increased because so many wanted to do their part to find those responsible.

Today, our country may never be more divided by politics and race (there are more things that divide us, but these are the top two)  We should not need a national tragedy of such magnitude to make us put down our hatred.  Once that hatred was put down, it should never be picked back up.  We have proven that we can get along then, we should be able to get along today.

Our lives have never been the same since that morning of September 11, 2001.  And while the majority of us have been able to move on with our lives, without suffering actual losses, there are still too many who remember this day, as if it were yesterday.

Never forget September 11, 2001

Hurricane Irma – One Year Later


At this time last year, I was as secure as I possible could be.  Because of the uncertainty of the path of this storm, which was not determined literally until 24-36 hours before, which was too late for the expensive evacuation process, I had made the decision to secure myself behind storm shutters and ride out the storm.  It was not a decision that I made lightly, but as I said, the uncertainty of the path, and the expense of evacuation were both deterrents in me leaving my home.  All I could do was prepare as best as all of us who remained, were instructed to do.  As I write this, at 12:30pm, three hours later from that time, as previously warned, the eye of Hurricane Irma would pass directly over my city.

You could hear the storm grow in severity as it approached with the winds rattling the storm shutters harder and harder.  Unsecured objects being lifted from their sedentary spots and hurled harder than cannonballs into buildings and shutters.  Of course, being enclosed, there was no way to witness the destruction that was occurring outside.  I could just hear it getting worse, louder and louder.

A calm would come eventually, as the eye passed overhead.  Nothing near the beauty as shown in movies, but it was definitely much more calm than just minutes before.  Against warnings, as the broadcasters knew many would do, I ventured outside to experience this eerie calmness.  It was still raining, and the winds had died down from the 140mph, to at my guess, 20 to 30mph.  And within minutes, the winds instantly returned to the triple digit speed the storm arrived with.

A couple of hours later, Irma was gone except for some remnant bands.

Under normal circumstance, September 11th, would be a day that I remember what happened to our country.  And really, given the charged political atmosphere had become, especially here in Florida, Irma had become a much needed distraction from two sides of people with different ideas and opinions.  For after this storm, we were all one people, trying to recover from one of the worst storms in history.

My building is in the process of finally being repaired, its roof still not completed on this anniversary.  We are in the middle of rainy season, and there is another two potential hurricanes heading to Florida while the Carolina’s brace for Hurricane Florence this week.

Right now however, we have recovered for the most part, at least as far as our lives go.  There are still probably 25% of people that still have repairs that need to be done.

Sadly, the American people of Puerto Rico, were hit with a storm right after Irma, Maria.  And to this day, the island is still in horrible shape.  Over 3,000 people died in Puerto Rico as a result of Maria.  And repairs are still necessary for so many.  They need help.

I have gone through seven hurricanes in my life, this the first one going through the eye of the hurricane.  From moment one following the storm, we learned what it was like to live without power, without running water, without the ability to cook.  The list goes on.  As I said though, neighbors and friends got through this together, not divided.  No matter what our differences, we did prove that we can get along and help each other.

As the expression goes on, literally,  “you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.”

 

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