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Bullying Stops Now!!!

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YESTERDAY, MY SON WAS BODYSLAMMED 3 TIMES BY A BULLY, THE SAME BULLY THAT HAS BEEN MAKING MY SON'S SCHOOL YEAR A NIGHTMARE, INCLUDING STEALING A NECKLACE I GAVE MY SON AS A SPECIAL GIFT FOR HIS FIRST YEAR OF LITTLE LEAGUE. LAST NIGHT, I CALLED THE COPS TO PUT A STOP TO THIS, AND WHEN THE COP CAME OVER, HE SAID THE SCHOOL POLICE OFFICER WOULD HANDLE THE CASE. WHEN I GOT A CALL TODAY FROM THE RVMS PSLO, HE TOLD ME THAT BECAUSE MY SON VOLUNTARILY WALKED INTO THE AREA THAT THE BULLY WAS, THAT IT WAS MY SON'S FAULT FOR GOING "INTO THE LIONS DEN" AND THERE WAS NOTHING HE WOULD DO ABOUT IT. WHEN I TOLD THE OFFICER THAT THIS BULLY HAD BEEN BULLYING MY SON ALL YEAR, HE SAID HE ONLY TAKES ONE ISSUE AT A TIME AND THE PAST WAS DONE, AND THE NECKLACE WAS THE BULLY'S BECAUSE THE BULLY WAS ABLE TO NAME A STORE WHERE THEY SELL THEM. THE KAUKAUNA AREA SCHOOLS IS PROTECTING BULLIES AND IGNORING THEIR VICTIMS! PLEASE SHARE AND SEND A MESSAGE TO EVERY SCHOOL DISTRICT THAT PROTECTING BULLIES AND DOING NOTHING ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS IS WRONG!! MY SON HAS BEEN BULLIED ALL SCHOOL YEAR BY THIS GROUP OF THUGS, AND NOT 1 TEACHER, ADMINISTRATOR, COUNCILLOR OR OFFICER WILL DO ANYTHING TO MAKE IT STOP, THEY ONLY OFFER EXCUSES AND BLAME THE VICTIMS!!! PLEASE HELP ME IN THE EFFORT TO STOP BULLYING!!!
YESTERDAY, MY SON WAS BODYSLAMMED 3 TIMES BY A BULLY, THE SAME BULLY THAT HAS BEEN MAKING MY SON’S SCHOOL YEAR A NIGHTMARE, INCLUDING STEALING A NECKLACE I GAVE… MY SON AS A SPECIAL GIFT FOR HIS FIRST YEAR OF LITTLE LEAGUE. LAST NIGHT, I CALLED THE COPS TO PUT A STOP TO THIS, AND WHEN THE COP CAME OVER, HE SAID THE SCHOOL POLICE OFFICER WOULD HANDLE THE CASE. WHEN I GOT A CALL TODAY FROM THE RVMS PSLO, HE TOLD ME THAT BECAUSE MY SON VOLUNTARILY WALKED INTO THE AREA THAT THE BULLY WAS, THAT IT WAS MY SON’S FAULT FOR GOING “INTO THE LIONS DEN” AND THERE WAS NOTHING HE WOULD DO ABOUT IT. WHEN I TOLD THE OFFICER THAT THIS BULLY HAD BEEN BULLYING MY SON ALL YEAR, HE SAID HE ONLY TAKES ONE ISSUE AT A TIME AND THE PAST WAS DONE, AND THE NECKLACE WAS THE BULLY’S BECAUSE THE BULLY WAS ABLE TO NAME A STORE WHERE THEY SELL THEM. THE KAUKAUNA AREA SCHOOLS IS PROTECTING BULLIES AND IGNORING THEIR VICTIMS! PLEASE SHARE AND SEND A MESSAGE TO EVERY SCHOOL DISTRICT THAT PROTECTING BULLIES AND DOING NOTHING ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS IS WRONG!! MY SON HAS BEEN BULLIED ALL SCHOOL YEAR BY THIS GROUP OF THUGS, AND NOT 1 TEACHER, ADMINISTRATOR, COUNCILLOR OR OFFICER WILL DO ANYTHING TO MAKE IT STOP, THEY ONLY OFFER EXCUSES AND BLAME THE VICTIMS!!! PLEASE HELP ME IN THE EFFORT TO STOP BULLYING!!!
This was a story that was being posted all over Facebook recently.  As if the incident itself was not shocking enough (the issue happened in a school near Wisconsin), but the reactions are just as bad, if not worse because it sends a horrible message to both victims and bullies.  To the victims the message is clear – “society does not care about us”.  I use the word “us” because from my Kindergarten years through eigth grade, I was a daily target of multiple assailants.  To the bullies, you have the ultimate unstoppable power.  No one is willing to do anything to stop you, because no one can.
A story more local to my area was about an elementary school student who died as a result of a playground fight.  While the school district bickers over semantics – was it a case of bullying as claimed, or was it just a school yard fight gone bad? – two parents were burying the child.  Parents are not supposed to bury their children.  School is the one place that a parent  has absolutely no control or protection of their child and therefore expect control and protection for their child from the teachers and other staff.
Our school district has a program that was implemented in all of its elementary schools and middle schools, meant to prevent bullying from even beginning.  It is a pro-active program that requires a daily commitment.  And the only way that the commitment happens, is by leadership.  But then in an effort to reduce budget expenses, they eliminate the coordinator position, claiming it was not meant to be permanent.
So now the program relies on an already overburdened overworked administrator with barely time enough to concentrate on security issues.  The school board’s position is that with all the schools trained, they can maintain the program themselves.
As far as I am concerned, this program was nothing more than to look good on paper.  And that is a shame because the program is good and it works.  But there needs to be an avenue for parents to follow when a school employee turns its back on a bullying incident.  Currently, it is a teacher or guidance counselor, and then the principal but then any effort is lost beyond that.  It should not have to go beyond the school because from there, so much can happen until there is any chance to resolve the bullying.
The parents should not be passed from administrator to administrator, then eventually the superintendent, and if it had a school board that cared.  Bottom line, the child who is being picked on is having his/her civil rights violated and they are not being allowed a harassment-free public education.  Call the police.  Currently, there are lawyers working for the schools and district who will do what they have to, to protect the school district, not the family of the victim.
This has to change.  And that is one thing I intend to address if I get elected to our school board.
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